5 ENEMIES OF SEX IN MARRIAGE THAT WRECK MARRIAGES IN THE 21ST CENTURY

 HOW DO YOU PLEASE A WOMAN?

 

Why is my wife so difficult to please? You do one thing today and she is pleased. The next day you do the same thing she is displeased. So unstable. More so, when it comes to sex, I have run out of ideas on how to please her sexually, even more, I can‘t seem to please her emotionally and this has affected our romantic involvements and saddened our relationship. How can i restore intimacy in my relationship?

 

In case you are at a fix about how to please your wife, just know that it is not her fault. The question of how to please a woman and be emotionally there for your wife can’t be answered until there is a proper understanding of the nature of a woman. There are a lot of things a wife wants from her husband that he takes for granted due to ignorance and carelessness. 

 

From many years of study about women, I have compiled this article with brevity and robustness to show every man how to make their angry wife happy. Not just that, you will learn how to satisfy a woman on virtually all levels—sexually, emotionally, mentally and many more.  So if you are asking of what to do to satisfy your partner, you are in the right place.

 

 

HOW TO PLEASE A WOMAN EMOTIONALLY

Pleasing a woman emotionally is very crucial. Without it, you can’t be able to completely please  her in other areas. For instance, a woman who is not emotionally stable cannot be pleased sexually. This is the reason i begin with the emotional aspect.

By nature, women are more of emotional beings than their male’s counterpart. They were designed to emote and as long as their emotional love tank is regularly kept filled, they will submit in every other area.

Though women have need for sex, but beyond sex, they need affection. This is why you can get a woman to do anything for you as long as you keep feeding her emotionally. Learning how to be there emotionally for your wife is a big win for any man who knows how to do it.

 

Here are a few ways to please a wife emotionally;

1. ALWAYS BUY HER SPECIAL GIFTS

 I don’t know what is in gifts that women cherish so much especially when it is a surprise. I came to realize that, sometimes, it is not in the quality or quantity of the gifts. They just want to be sure that they are loved and cared for. And one way to do that is true the giving of gifts.

There are many things women like about guys but a gift surprise is  one thing that really pleases them.  This is one of the ways to rejuvenate and restore a lost emotion in a relationship.

2. ALWAYS FEED HER WORD FOODS

We have just seen how buying of gifts is important to pleasing a wife emotionally. However, gifts alone are not enough. In addition to the gift, your words are a powerful tool that really pleases women. Women are word driven. There is this believe I have come to hold strongly,  “ When a woman begins to give ears to another man’s sweet affirmation, sooner or later, she will become emotionally connected to him and grow weary of the other man.” This is why husbands should never grow tired of affirming their wives. 

Take time to seriously look into her eyes and tell her how beautiful she is. Tell her she is the best and irreplaceable. Let her know she is the best mother and the best wife anyone could ask for. Let her know that no one is going to take her place and that she is the best thing that has ever happened to you.

3. KEEP TRACK OF IMPORTANT DATES

 A woman who knows you really care is more likely open to connect with you emotionally. One of the ways a woman thinks you care is when you can keep record of important dates like birthday and wedding anniversary. 

Have you ever heard the statement, “what is today? I thought you care. How can you forget that today is my birthday?” and she will cry the whole day and avoid you just for the simple reason that you forgot an event date.

4. SPEND QUALITY AND QUANTITY TIME

 Don’t just spend quantity time with a woman. spend quality time with her. Most men stay at home all day long, glued to their laptop for hours with their wives seated beside them and they think that is quality time. That is quantity time, not quality time.

To be there emotionally for your wife, you have to communicate with her and hear her out. Allow her communicate her needs and challenges and reach a solution with her. If there is nothing to spend time talking about, cuddle her, eat with her or take her out on a date to see a movie together or visit a new place. 

5. DO LOVELY THINGS WITH HER

 To be a man who wants to please his woman, you must be creative. Think of great ideas and new ways to add fun and excitement (checkout my post, 20 bed fun ideas besides sex and romance). Dancing and singing together is a great thing to do, moreover, it is a great way to exercise together. Also, you can cook, watch TV  or even play games together just to mention a few.

6. MAKE LOVE ONLY WHEN NECESSARY

 That’s right. Make love only when it is necessary. I said this because, by reason of men being very sexually active than women, they may be tempted to bug their wives out with sex. Don’t do that. Sometimes you have to exercise self-control especially when she's famished probably due to house chores or work stress.

When a husband disturbs his wife for sex too regularly than normal, she begins to disconnect from him emotionally as that makes her feel worthless and valueless. She begins to feel she is a sex slave trapped all in the name of marriage.

When sex is normal, it satisfies a woman emotionally but when it is out of course, she gets disconnected and feels like a sex slave.

 

 

HOW TO PLEASE A WOMAN SEXUALLY

We have seen how a woman can be pleased emotionally. If this fact is well grasped and implemented, then it brings all round relationship satisfaction which in turn improves the overall health of the relationship. When done, pleasing a woman sexually becomes an easy adventure.

Whether you are a Christian or non-Christian, you shouldn’t have reservations about your sex life. It is your responsibility to please your partner romantically and sexually. God wants you to enjoy sex that’s why he created sex to be an enjoyable experience. He didn’t create sex primarily for procreation. If that was the case, we probably would lose our sexual abilities after having the number of kids we desire. Having quality sex is one way to please your wife sexually in marriage.

Having said all these, let’s see how a husband can satisfy his wife sexually and make her happy for the rest of her life.

1. GIVE A DOSE OR DOSES OF SWEET WORDS

 If there is one thing I know and can confidently say about women is the fact that they are word-driven beings. Sometimes, I jokingly say something like, “Among many reasons why women exist is affirmation. If they don’t get it, they are unsatisfied even if you give them the whole word.” This is why I believe that the most depressed and angry wives are those who are not affirmed and appreciated by their husbands.

A man before, during, and after sex  owes his wife the duty of affirmations.  It can be a great way to initiate sex and make a wife happy. Note that, while affirming your wife, you have to maintain eye contact. The eyes have a way of revealing a lot more than the mouth can express.

There are healthy affirmations such as:

You are the most beautiful creature I have seen. Your lips, so succulent like a fresh tomato. You are so sexy and sweet, always making me drown in the ocean of your sex and love. With you, sex is pleasurable, always desirable.

These are words you can use during love making. There are affirmations you can use on a normal day too, not just during or after sex.

2. MAKE SURE SHE IS RELAXED AND HAPPY

 Most men are heartless. Even when their wives are unhappy and depressed they don’t care. They just want to have sex despite how she feels. She will never enjoy sex this way.  Some husbands don’t welcome the idea of a maid to help with house chores, yet they still want a tired wife to enjoy sex. It won’t work. A man can’t please his wife sexually this way. Sex is beyond physical union. It is the interconnection of the minds and emotions with genuine willingness and not just to be viewed as a marital obligation that must be met regardless of your feelings.

3. TAKE THINGS SLOWLY

 Unlike men, women cum several times and they don’t easily climax.  This is why satisfying a woman is hard work. However, to easily please  your wife sexually, you have to take things slowly.  A better way to start is to begin with an intense foreplay.

A foreplay is a pre-sexual activity that aims at building great sexual arousal before you thrust in as a man. Healthy activities like smooching, caressing, fingering, blowjob and many more constitute foreplay. The essence of foreplay is to get her aroused before you thrust.

How do you know a woman is aroused? Check her reaction by observing her critical while foreplaying. Another way you know is that she may ask you herself to thrust in or she may insert your penis into her by herself.

4. BE VARIETY-DRIVEN

 Be variety driven. This means, explore different sex style and sex locations. It must not be in the bedroom or bathroom. It could also be in the kitchen, sitting room or lobby. Also, when thrusting in and out, vary your frequency by riding in gently and speedily at intervals. Don’t just start riding on her like a car without breaks. Check out my post. 

5. USE SUPPLEMENTS THAT IMPROVE SEXUAL PLEASURE

 There are healthy natural supplements that improve pleasure during sex that are advisable to be taking occasionally. It is natural that the more you have sex, and the older you get, the more taste it loses. But with these supplements, a wife can be sexually pleased like she’s in her teen years.

6. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF SEX

 There are different types of sex your spouse deeply desires but won’t tell you. If you really want to satisfy a woman and make her happy, you have to explore these different types. 

7. EVALUATE YOUR SEX LIFE

Evaluation is very necessary because you don’t want to base your sex life on assumptions. Maybe the reason she is not satisfied is because you are doing the things you think please her. 

Women have different sex needs. What pleases one, may not please another. This is why the both of you have to sit down and talk about your sex lives and the possible ways you can improve it. As the man, begin by asking her questions about her needs and fantasies when it comes to sex and state yours clearly as well. Immediately after sex is usually the best time to.

With all these done, you are sure to satisfy your wife sexually.

 

 

HOW TO PLEASE A WOMAN MENTALLY

Pleasing your wife mentally is one way to please her in marriage.

The word “mentally” is coined from the root word “mental” which seeks to point to ones intellectual endowments. An intelligent wife should be appreciated.

Many men think they are smarter and women are dummies, when in fact, the reverse is the opposite. According to research, women are designed with  more partitioned brains that can multitask at the same time, one thing that the vast majority of men don't have capacity for. So don’t see your wife as a dummy.

There are a couple of ways you can please your wife mentally;

1. Involve her in the decision making process
2. Appreciate her ideas whether if they fail or succeed
3. Tell her how intelligent and smart she is especially in leading the home
4. Don’t make her a glorified house maid. Let her work if she wants to, or involve her in the family business.
5. If she wants to further her education, support her all the way

 

CONCLUSION

So far, we have learned the following;

How to please a woman emotionally, How to please a woman sexually, and how to please a woman mentally.

If you must satisfy  your wife in marriage, these three areas must not be elusive. Try them out and you are sure to come back to testify. 

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