HOW TO MAKE AN ANGRY WIFE HAPPY
As the saying goes,
“Behind every angry woman stands a man, who has completely no idea what he did
wrong.” A wife can get angry with you for a myriad of reasons and most of the
time, the husband does not know why. However, husbands cannot be blamed every
time a wife is moody or looks unhappy as emotions are bound to be unstable
sometimes, which makes them turn pretty quick-tempered. However, it is the man's duty to calm her down. An angry wife can
make the whole house go upside down!
In Proverbs
Proverbs21:9, Solomon stated, ” It is better to dwell in a corner of the
housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
He also re-echoed
this statement in Proverbs 21: 19, “It is better to dwell in the wilderness,
than with a contentious and an angry wife.”
Whether from emotional swing, outsiders or insiders like husbands and children, wives will get angry. So settle it. The question now is, what do you do when your wife is upset? This is what we will talk about in this article. Often men get stunned when their wives get angry, unable to grasp what they did to trigger the scene.
What you are about to read is an easy, fun and faster way to melt even the strongest of angry hearts faster than you think. After this, you are sure on your way to build and restore lost intimacy in a magical way.
Before we see how a
man can make an angry wife happy, let’s see what husbands must know about angry
wives.
WHAT HUSBANDS MUST KNOW ABOUT ANGRY WIVES
There are vital things every woman wants from a man that he has to be aware of.
Many husbands have
divorced their loving wives due to this repetitive mood swing called anger that
their wives display occasionally, and it is because they think it is abnormal.
It is not. It happens to everyone, so don’t expect your wife
to be an exception.
A few nuggets you
have to bear in mind. First, no wife stays angry forever. As a reasonable and
sensible man, you should know how to calm your angry wife and make her happy
whenever she’s in her emotional lows.
Second, if your
wife is always angry and negative minded, you need to be aware of the different
triggers that make her unhappy. Possibly she has anger issues that have caused commotions in your marriage. It is important you learn
how to manage her anger by avoiding the things that easily beset her. Anger
can lead to a depressed and negative wife.
It is very
imperative to restore your wife’s happiness. And this begins by knowing by
heart how to make an angry wife happy in marriage.
10 WAYS TO MAKE AN ANGRY WIFE HAPPY
When a wife is angry
with you, everything in the marriage seems to tear apart. You begin to feel
that your house has lost the happiness and light it once had. At this point,
the commonest questions one can ask are, What to do when a wife is upset? Why is
my wife mad at me? How do I deal with an angry wife?
You want to calm
her down and make her happy again but are totally blank on how to do so. Don’t
worry, there is no angry wife that cannot be calmed. Here are 10 ways on how to
calm a wife when she is upset.
1. UNDERSTAND
THE UNDERTONE OF HER ANGER
The first step to
solve any problem is to know the source of the problem. Once you achieve this,
taking away the source becomes an automatic solution to the problem. I know that
occasionally humans are bound to flicker, but when this happens beyond normal,
it is a pointer to the fact that the source is not dealt with.
If you are married
to an angry wife, the first thing to do is to find out the reason she’s upset.
Most women are upset by external factors and when they come home, they transfer
aggression. For instance, I have an aunty that whenever she comes back from the
market, you better avoid her. Some get
upset generated by internal factors like husbands, children and too many
domestic chores to do.
The challenge is, sometimes, she may not even
know that these things are the reason for her consistent anger. As a sensitive
husband, to deal with a short-tempered wife, you have to find out the
underlying reasons behind her anger by engaging in meaningful discussion with
her when she is calm. When the reason or reasons are known, then you can adjust
accordingly in other to better manage her temper.
Other minor things
you can do to make an angry wife happy in marriage are
2. SELL
HER YOUR EARS AND SHUT YOUR MOUTH
When a wife is
angry she is more likely to turn into a nagging wife. A nagging wife may keep
complaining a lot about many things in or out of perspective but if you listen
carefully, she may have genuine reasons for nagging. This is not the time to
shut her up and complain that she nags too much. As a mature and sensitive
husband, you must learn how to talk to your wife when she is angry. Above that, you must also learn how to LISTEN
to her. How else can you deal with an angry wife unless you hear her out?
Listen to her
complains or dissatisfaction with you. Maybe you come home late from work every
day, or you are not sincere with her. Perhaps you don’t keep your promise to
the kids and that alone is damaging them emotionally.
Make her spill her
heart and don’t interrupt. Try to
understand her standpoint. Listening to her side of the story will also help
you realize your mistake.
3. APOLOGIZE
WHENEVER YOU FAULT
Another thing to do
to make an angry wife happy is to apologize to her especially when you are the
one at fault. It is very annoying when someone expects you to take the blame
for his mischief. It is advisable that when there is a fight, you put
your ego aside as the leader of the marriage and find a common ground to fix
things. Wives are mad at their husbands for a longer period because they don’t
apologize for their mistakes.
If you are the reason
for the offence, you should apologize sincerely to your wife at the first
chance you get. An honest apology is a virtue every married couple must embrace.
Sometimes you can
even go as far as apologizing to your wife for other people’s fault like the
children or someone outside.
4. FLIRT WITH A TOUCH OF HUMOUR
Have you thought of
flirting with your spouse? Flirting with
an upset wife actually helps in calming her. How do you then flirt with her?
Flirt with a touch of humour and apology. This can do a lot in making
your short-tempered wife happy.
For instance, if
your wife says she doesn’t want to talk with you. You can flirt with her by
saying something like “But you know I can’t stay without my sweetheart talking
to me. I may die. Look at! Look at! I’m dying already, please come back to your
loving, charming and cute useless husband.”
It is important you
also note that you only flirt only when an offence is not that serious. Nobody
plays or jokes around in the face of a serious matter.
5. BE THE
ICE OF HER HOTNESS
It is ridiculous
thinking a woman is not supposed to be mad at you. Unfortunately, this is how
most men think. When it comes to getting angry or being offended, most husbands
think they have monopoly over that, so when a woman does, they tend to get
angry. This is why most men don’t apologize to their wives.
It is vital to calm
your wife down when she is angry at you. Be the ice in her hotness whenever she’s
angry and for whatever be the reason she is. Even if you are married to an
angry woman, it is part of your conjugal responsibilities. In doing this, you
need to know how to talk to your wife when she’s angry.
There is a way you
talk to her that will further aggravate the problem. Don’t ever make hurtful
statements or shift blames even if she is at fault. You can do that later when
she’s calm and reasonable. Instead try cuddling her and holding her so tightly close
to you when she lashes at you. Eventually, she will submit unto your efforts
and calm down seeing all the care and attention you give to her. The reason
must wives get angry uncontrollably is because there is no one to calm them
down.
6. PUT OF
EGO
A lady contacted me
for counseling and was very angry and raging at her fiancé. She said, “ I don’t
know what is wrong with him. He gets me angry and still gets offended. He never
says sorry. Instead he expects me to take the blame for his wrongs and apologize.” This is
one common challenge many women face. And the reason is because men are
egocentric. They don’t want to as less as nurture the believe that they can be
wrong at times. They think being wrong and apologetic make them less. But that’s
not it.
Many husbands with
this attitude of ego have made their homes a battle field. A woman can never
submit this way. There are things you can do when a wife is upset instead of
pouring ego up and down.
Most times when
married couples fight or argue, the issue becomes even worse not because
nothing can be done, but because both partners are unwilling to let go of their
ego. They both think in their mind that they are right and in doing so the relationship gets soured. Eventually, when the misunderstandings grow bigger than the
relationship, they separate.
You should not let
your ego come in the way when you are trying to make your angry wife happy
7. MAKE
HER BEST MEAL
It is said that the
way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Likewise, another way to thrill an
angry wife and make her happy at an instant is through making her favorite
meal. Don’t tell her you are doing so.
Once you have
managed to calm her down get into the kitchen and make that sumptuous delicacy.
Serve her in a special way, lights out, candles on, with a table decorated with
sweet and scented flowers. At the dinner table, talk to her heart-to-heart. Ask her the reason for her offence and if those issues can be resolved.
Don’t forget that,
anger mostly creeps in from feeling hurt and having unmet expectations. Your
wife may be angry at you for legitimate reasons indicating that you hurt her in
some way. You being the husband need to work towards calming her down and restoring
her to her normal self. If you do this, you don’t have to be dealing with a short
tempered wife over and over again.
8. SURPRISE
YOUR WIFE
Another way to make
an angry wife happy is to surprise her. Of cause by now you must have known
that women like surprises. An angry wife will not be angry for long seeing that
you are doing everything possible to make her happy and win her back. As a romantic and loving man that you are, you know all the things that really make
her happy and melt her heart. It is your chance to do those things to win her
love back.
Generally, women like gifts. You may want to
send her a surprise gift like shoes, cloths, flowers, chocolates or cookies. Or send her something with an inscription, “I am
sorry.” Her heart will melt in no time even if you are married to an angry wife.
9. HELP HER OVERCOME EXTERNAL ANGER TRIGGERS
Sometimes your
wife’s anger and frustration may not be internally generated. It might be coming out of
nowhere, perhaps from outside the confines of the home. It may be from friends,
family or something in her mind she is not willing to share. It is not time to lash out on her for transferring
external negative energy into the home. Don’t do that. You may be all she needs
at that time to feel better so don’t pull out or get frustrated.
If she avoids
intimacy or shows signs of pulling away, do not get mad at her and force
yourself on her. At this point, show empathy to her and let her know that you will
always be there for her no regardless of what happens.
If she says she is
not ready to talk about it, don’t force her. Let her be. When she feels ready
to talk, she will come forward and share her feelings with you.
10. SHOW
HER YOU ARE GETTING BETTER
Have you heard the
statement, “Because I easily forgive you, you always hurt me over and over again?”
This is the reason
most wives are upset the more their husbands ask for their forgiveness. Many husbands didn’t
marry angry wives; they made them that way because they wouldn’t just stop
hurting their feelings.
Don’t just
apologize for the sake of apologizing whenever you offend your wife. You have
to mean it and see to it that you don’t commit that same offence again. If she
sees you commit that same offence over and over, it could hurt her feelings and seared her conscience and she could start withdrawing from you.
Sorry alone is not enough until you make efforts to work on the problem. Women like men who mean what they say and say what they mean.
When your wife notices that you are
really working hard to improve yourself and get better, she will feel even
happier. You cannot make an angry wife happy with vain promises and apologies.
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