At the novelty of
any marriage relationship, keeping emotion and intimacy afloat and alive isn't
a hard thing to do; hence enjoying sweet sex in marriage is easy to come by.
But as time goes
on, as more responsibilities that come with making and raising children,
setting routines and managing office jobs set in, the drive and desire for
intimacy and the urge for great sex depletes.
The resultant
effect being that married couple begins to cheat or derive sexual pleasure
outside the marriage due to boredom and sexual dissatisfaction. A couple who
once knew how to enjoy sex is now learning how to spice up sex in marriage.
According to Sheri
Stritof of VeryWell Mind Blog in her post " How to keep your sex life healthy in marriage", “As the years go by and you get older, your
intimate relationship should get better.” And I so much believe this statement.
Unfortunately,
the 21st century and all its distractions, difficulties, and high
demands of responsibilities for survival seeks to oppose such intimacy.
The tensions, chaos
and unreasonable demands it brings with it squeeze out a couple's inclination
to enjoy sex, romance, and intimacy to the fullest.
This article is to
expose the 7 major enemies or problems of sex in marriage and to prepare your
mind, heart, spirit, soul, and body for
an incredible sexual explosion.
1. TAKING TO THOUGHTS
Thinking sexless
matters while having sex is one of the major causes of sexual dissatisfaction. A man is making love
with his wife and thinking about a target or an objective to meet at the workplace. On the other hand, a full housewife is beclouded with the
thought of many domestic itineraries and the challenges of raising and managing
kids.
Taking thoughts
other than sexually related once when making out is a common happenstance in depressed or troubled
marriages that steal fun, hinder great sexual climax and cause a very poor orgasm.
Great sex demands
bonding on every side including alignment or unison of thoughts, total focus
and mutual happiness.
If you, therefore, want to leverage on the fun that sex brings, then don't waste your
time thinking about troubles or some workplace demands or targets during sex. Troubles can varnish away but if your
spouse derives pleasure in the arm of another person following that sex with you does not appeal anymore, you may never recover from such a wreck.
2. LACK OF FRIENDSHIP
The inability to build
friendship is one of the biggest problems of sex in marriage.
To say you want to build an
exciting sex life without friendship is like a dog without teeth. It will never
work.
The first thing
friendship will accomplish in a couple's sexuality is to create deep intimacy
and a great connection. This is why it is popularly believed that friendship is
the bond that ties couples together.
The typical way unfriendly
couples do sex is to zip down, insert the banana, and after a few minutes or so they
withdraw, zip up and that's it.
It's ok. Keep
acting this way, but be rest assured that by the time another bad, sexy,
romantic looking man hit it hard on her in a way she goes crazy, she will fall head over
heels in love with him and by that time, it doesn't matter how big your banana
is, she will gladly leave you for a more satisfying, intimated, cuddling and
friendship-based lovemaking full of romantic discussions and naughtiness.
3. CHILDREN, MAIDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS
Can you remember
those times when you were just alone, the things you did around the house when
no one was around?
You would have sex and enjoy the romance and
pleasure that comes with it anywhere around the house without fear of
interference--balcony sex, bathroom sex even pool sex. You could literally stay
anywhere around the home and enjoy great sex morning, afternoon, and night.
Now, you rarely do those things because everywhere you turn to, people are around. The kids are watching, the maids are watching, other domestic staff and family members around are watching and it has really deprived you of great sex in marriage.
While children and
other people around are a necessity so cannot be done away with, there are
still great ways to enjoy uninterrupted sex together anywhere, anyhow, and anytime.
Take the
kids to see grandma and Grandpa, give the maids and everyone else a day or two
days off, and have fun. Better still, take a weekend getaway to a nice resort once in a
while. It is that simple.
The last thing you
want to do is give excuses for not enjoying great sex your way. You can still
achieve your fantasies.
4.AN EXCESSIVELY DEMANDING JOB
Any job that steals
happiness away from your marriage is not
worth it no matter how much you are paid.
You cannot quantify the level of
damage it will cause if such job begins to affect your sex life and family life
in general.
Demanding jobs have
crushed a lot of marriages and wrecked the destiny of many children who suffer
the fate of a divorced home due to immorality on account of a couple seeking
sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
There are jobs that require a person to travel
for days, weeks, and even months leaving a sexually driven partner behind who
ends up cheating. Also, most married men whose job requires them to travel, have had to start another family elsewhere.
Still, some jobs even if they don't require one to travel, are so tasky that couples become famished when they get back home thereby making it difficult to enjoy great sex.
settling with such a problem because you think it's beyond your control will wreck the marriage. What you can do is to make good use of the weekends. Make it a dedicated and intimate sex day.
5. LACK OF SEX EDUCATION
There are a
different variety of things people can learn to spice and spark up their sex
lives. The problem is, only a few people have learned this.
Most married folks are archaic and primitive when it comes to lovemaking. They don't know how to romance, they don't know where, how, and when to touch each
other for a great response. Some don't even use different sex positions because
they don't know how to.
Things like
understand a woman's or a man's body and how they react during sex should be a must for every one couple to learn if sex life must be
enjoyed.
Being an illiterate
of these things can affect the funs that come along with sex. You might just
be scratching the surface whereas a lot of opportunities are available to help
you enjoy sex in the most intimate and deepest level.
Gain education
therefore on how to add romance, fun, kissing, foreplay, and caressing in
your sex life. Consult with a sexologist.
If you must spice up sex in your marriage, you must strive to avoid these enemies of great sex I have mentioned so far.
CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVE ON SEX IN MARRIAGE
The problem of sex in Christian marriages is something Christian couples should give great attendance to.
Many Christians
don't enjoy sex and it is due to a misperception or some religious
indoctrination and belief.
What is not perverted about sex is perverted to most Christians and a great abomination yet even the bible did not specify such.
Needless to ask the reason why divorce has taken over many Christian Marriages. When a Christian couple
finds great sexual satisfaction outside, he or she tends to come up with
excuses why the marriage has to end all in a bid to elope with a lover whose
sexual prowess is enjoyed.
There is no bible
verse or scriptural reference that
depicts how sex can be indulged in. God in His wisdom gives the leverage to do a lot of things including fingering, oral sex, and trying out different sex
positions, and yet Christians do not want to explore.
Most Christians
believe oral sex is a sin but isn't it clearly explained by the words of Jesus
Christ that it is not what enters a man that defiles but what comes out of a
man? This is recorded in Matthew:15:17-28
Do not ye yet understand, that whatsoever entereth in at the mouth goeth into the belly, and is cast out into the draught?But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.
OVERSPIRITUALITY
(This one thing is why many marriages fail) is the reason why most Christians don't enjoy sex to the fullest which gives room for adultery that was never
premeditated.
Christian couples
should open up and have fun. After the children come, and friendship is built, don't murder sex yet. Fire
up your married life by enjoying sex with your partner to the brim.
Don't allow a poor sex life to ruin your
marriage with infidelity when your partner embarks in an unending search for sexual
satisfaction outside the marriage.
HOW OFTEN SHOULD COUPLES HAVE SEX IN MARRIAGE
There is no
international regulation for sex matters to specify the number of times a
couple should have sex. If there were, their specifications would mean nothing
because everyone has different energy levels and a varied drive for sex.
However, while
there is no specific number, having sex 3 times a week can be great but there
is nothing as great as having it at your own frequency.
There is no problem
or danger with having sex often times a day as long as you feed well and take the correct
supplements and fruits that support sex organs, cells, and tissues.
BENEFITS OR IMPORTANCE OF SEX IN MARRIAGE.
Man is a sexual
being. Everyone is wired with the inclination, drive, or proclivity for sex.
I believe that for
God to give us such drive for sex, means that sex is very vital and an essential aspect of man's existence.
Some of the
importance of sex in marriage are;
1. Great sex can be
a means to resolve some marriage issues
2. Good sex can
release tension
3. If you are
losing focus and you really want to calm
down and relax have sex
4. Sex has a significant
impact on the brain that keeps one mentally stable
5. Great sex may be
able to keep one from cheating. Not a guarantee.
6. Good Sex can
make married couples happy
7. Sex can promote
love and affirmations in marriage
TAKE AWAY QUOTES
If you can get burnt when you play with fire, you can wreck your marriage when you play with sex.
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