How To Raise A Christian Child
The negative things you see around these days—the social vices, sexual pervasion, drug and alcohol addictions, killing, armed robbery, fraud and many more are not accidental. They don't happen because they must happen. They are the direct results of negative parenting. Unfortunately, even children raised in Christian homes are victims. This ought not to be. There is a predetermined pattern to raise a good Christian Child according to Proverbs 22:6:
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will
not depart from it."
When some vital stages or processes are omitted in the course of raising
a child in a Godly manner, inappropriate Behaviours should be
expected.
Who Is A Christian Child?
A Christian child is a child trained with Christian values and modelled after Jesus Christ. It has very little to do with the home children are born into. This is because there are children born into Christian families who don't depict Christian values. I have seen many pastors' kids who are public miscreants and show non-compliant behaviours. So, Christian parenting is more about character cultivation than it is, a family's religion.
To bring up a child in a Christian way, here are some steps to
take:
- Be a Replica Of The Foundation
Here is a golden rule Jesus meted out for all Christian mothers and
fathers in Matthew 7:3,
"And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but
considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?"
The easiest way to lead children and get them to comply is by setting
good examples. They learn better and faster that way. Anything contrary
will affect them badly. For instance, if a father smokes, there is a high
chance that when a child comes of age, he could do the same. The father
won't be able to gather enough courage to ask him not to, seeing that he
does the same.
How can a parent be a replica of the foundation? By living the Christian
lifestyle which includes honesty, love, praying, fasting, attending
services etc.
- Build The Foundation
First, Jesus is the foundation, so introduce Jesus to them. This means,
lead them to Christ if they are sensible enough. In my opinion, children
from 5 years and above are sensible enough for salvation. If you must
raise a Christian child, he/she must first know Christ.
Second, ensure they start living the Christian life by
monitoring, correcting and disciplining. Always remind them whose children
they are when they behave out of character. Let them know that as children
of God born into the kingdom of light there are things they are not
supposed to do.
- Ensure Consistency
One reason why a parent must be consistent is that
consistency creates a clear direction. Inconsistency, on the flipside,
leads to vagueness which confuses children. Today you discipline a child
for something wrong, the next time, you don't and he feels everything is
ok. After a while, he carries on that negative lifestyle, and he takes you
for granted. That's how non-christian values are formed.
- Take Advantage of The Various Christian Ordinances
I have seen many Christians who find it hard to share. This could be
because they weren't trained to give. The act of charity and
kindness was not on their bucket list. Some children are too
food-conscious. They can't fast even in the phase of adverse
circumstances. Some still, are myopic of God's word because they perhaps
weren't taught to study and meditate on them. Some children prefer going
to clubs or birthday parties to going to weekly activities.
- Teach Them Scriptures About Discipline
Do you know what I really like about children? When they
tell a fellow child, " Jason, don't do that. Don't take what belongs to
another person. It is a sin. The bible says we should not steal." Isn't
this what every Christian parent wants? Well, it doesn't come so easy. You
can only raise a child like this if you personally teach them some of the
bible verse that talks about discipline. In addition, have them meditate
on them morning, afternoon and evening.
Raising Christian Teens
Now the big challenge. How can I bring up teenagers in a Christian
manner?
The training pattern of children and teenagers are a far cry away. The
methods and parenting styles must differ in many ways. For one reason, as
long as they were toddlers or kids, you had absolute control over them.
But now, they are teenagers, they want to make their own decisions and be
in control. They think they are sensible enough to make independent
decisions.
When children grow to become teenagers, raising a godly family becomes a
bit difficult. Because you don't know the direction their self-made
decisions is leading them to.
To raise a Christian child who is now a teenager, consider the following
tips:
- Communicate more with them: understand their needs. Discuss sex and peer pressure with them. Enlighten them on the dangers of premarital sex, drug addiction, social media addiction and more. Do these on a regular basis.
- Don't cage them: The worst mistake to make as a Christian parent is to build walls around your children as a way to protect them and keep them Christianized. If you are a great parent you should trust that your teenage children can make good choices outside and not cage them. A bird you cage if released will do everything possible never to get caged again.
How To Raise A Christian Child In Public School
A public school admits all manner of people. Children from all walks of life regardless of behaviour type are all gathered together. This is why character scrutiny and aptitude test are not a thing for public schools.
A school where the good, the bad and the ugly constellate under one
academic umbrella demands drastic measures in raising a Christian
child.
Consider the following tips:
- Always remind them of who they are before they leave for school each day.
- Ensure they join the school Christian fellowship if any
- Pray and take out time to fast every month for them.
- Teach them how to make good friends and influence bad friends positively
- Enlighten them on some popular social vices like premarital sex, drug, alcohol and social media addiction
What Are The Attributes Of A Good Christian Child?
After raising a child in a godly manner, how do you check his/her godliness?
Look out for these Attributes:
- Respectfulness
- Charity
- Love to study God's word
- Prayerfulness
- Purity
How Can I Help My Child Grow Spiritually?
In biblical parenting, spiritual growth is key. Bringing up children in a Christian home demands strong spiritual maturity as a parent.
A child's spiritual growth is one proof that you have done justice as
Christian parenting in raising up your child.
To raise up a Spiritually mature child, you need to first understand what
constitutes spiritual maturity.
According to the bible, we grow spiritually when we obey God's word. This
is why bringing up children to obey God's commandments is the route to
maturity. You can do this by motivating them to study God's word and
acting in line with what God says. For instance, if they won't share,
point them to a scriptural reference where God asks us to share.
How Can I Be A Godly Mom?
Do you want to be a godly mom? I can understand. Every now and then, to-be mothers ask, “What does the bible say about being a good mother?” here is what it says:
Proverbs 31:25 - She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear
of the future.
Proverbs 31 is the virtuous woman’s anthem. Every quality you need in a
good Christian woman is packed in here. However, my particular concern is
in verse 25 precisely the part that says, “She laughs without fear of the future.”
The difference between a godly and a worldly parent is rest. A godly
mother is not afraid of the future. She is not anxious because she is
certain; her children will turn out well.
The joy of every Christian mother is to raise a responsible child that
will promote the values of Christianity. But that won’t be possible until
you become a godly mother.
How then do you become a godly parent?
Firstly, you become a godly parent by being a Christian first. After
which, start living the Christian life.
The cheapest way to raise children or teenagers is by motivating them
with your character. Not by demanding from them to act in ways that you
don’t. This is why you must cultivate some Christian values and start
practising the Christian faith.
PLEASE DO THIS FOR ME
If you find this helpful, Consider Subscribing by Email.
Share AND Comment
Thank you.
Related Posts
No comments:
Post a Comment